In this day and age the words "friend" and "partner" are thrown around way too loosely. In the blink of an eye we coin people "friends" and bring them into our inner circles, our homes, and our businesses because we share common interests and/or goals, seldom legitimately weighing their heart, character, and/or integrity. Sure you may meet some awesome people and make some great connections, but you are also opening yourself up to opportunists, saboteurs and a world of hurt.
Your inner circle tends to be privy to your successes and failures, and while your failures may not have the propensity to rub certain of its members the wrong way, your successes do. It has often been said that people want you to do well in life, but not better than them. This is very true, for many a visionary has had the experience of cheerleader turned heckler when fumbles and stumbles transform into drives and strides. Or yaysayers becoming naysayers when "impossible" feats begin to materialise. As heartbreaking as this is, bear in mind what Ikaya said "a di same mouth say rehh a di same mouth say boo." You are not the first and you most certainly will not be the last.
The remedy to this is to exercise discernment and guard your circle. Only share what is necessary with whomever necessary, and reevaluate your circle frequently. If at any point you discover an "enemy" in the camp (be sure that your pride is not leading the charge when it comes to this particular assessment) expel him/her from your inner circle and, as hard as it may be at first, know that you did what is best for yourself and your future endeavours. Friends and partners are supposed to have your back, not give you another reason to have to watch it.
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